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Dating a much younger partner isn’t taboo like it once was. As a result, many more mature adults find themselves dating a much younger partner, and are commonly referred to as cougars. Of course, that isn’t without it’s challenges. Remember, those wide gaps in age can leave you each with different realities or expectations, one party dealing with insecurities, and often the younger party can also be judgmental.
As a mature adult, you are likely very confident and secure in who you are, what you believe, how you see the world, etc. Many younger men like the confidence and stability that a mature woman has to offer. On the other hand, a younger partner hasn’t lived as much “life” as he may not have as jaded a view of the world as you do. He may see the world in a much different light than you do. He may also be insecure and that can lead to jealousy and inappropriate judgments.
If you choose to get involved with a younger partner, you are going to have to accept that there may be challenging times that you face. After all, you are from different generations. When in a relationship with someone younger they lack some of the maturity that you have. So while they might emphatically tell you where they are headed and what their game plant is, ask them a week later and they’ll be on another road. If you are not ready to do this, it might be a good idea to reconsider getting involved in a relationship with someone younger.
You will also have to consider what might happen in ten or fifteen years when he decides he wants a family and that might be something that doesn’t sit well with you, because you might already have teenagers or adult children, or you might never have wanted to have a family.
Younger men travel pretty light. They tend to fit in just about anywhere and that includes your family. However, your family might not be as willing to accept him. They don’t usually bring along too much baggage in the form of ex-wives and kids. However, they do tend to be vain so you are going to have to be willing to put up with that. Then again, you might just find it attractive.
You will need to develop a nice thick skin, since you’ll find yourself being asked is this is your son. Eventually, you will learn to just smile. For years, men have been dating younger women and they just take into stride the comments about whether that’s their daughter.
In addition to the challenges, there can be eye-opening moments for you too. This can be a positive experience. After all, just as your younger partner can learn life experiences from you, there is always the option that you might see a different way of looking at things too. In fact, blending different generations together can be interesting and fun.